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God’s Unique Plan: Releasing The Concerns Of Others!

Some people can take an interest in the lives of others. Forming and sharing their thoughts, feelings and opinions about someone else’s life and decisions. There are many forms of entertainment out there but  nothing like people watching. 👀 It is important for us not to allow what people think or say to affect or hinder our unique journey.

Everybody is different. There are no 2 people on Earth that is the same. I don’t consider myself to be normal. I’ve always done things differently than others. I have never went with a fad or what was most popular. When I chose to do things differently I did it intentionally. I will just share my experience with dealing with opinions and thoughts of others about my journey of “Waiting For My Husband.”

I am single, waiting on my husband and celibate. I have been for a nice while now. I’ve taken this time to get closer to God and to get to know myself better. Knowing God is truly knowing yourself. I’ve been asked “how can I ask God for a husband when I don’t date?” Well, because I trust God to bring the man He has created just for me to be my husband into my life so the search is not up to me to do. And honestly I am over dating. I’ve dated before, been in long term relationships before, I’ve even had sexual rendezvous before and none of those things ever brought me closer to finding my husband. I’ve realized it’s because I am not to be out there looking and searching. God knows all and He knows my future husband. I trust that when the time is right we will come together just as God has planned.

With that being said, I’ve met, talked to and entertained some men in my single state. It’s a lot of men that are just like a lot of women. They are playing the field and do not have the slightest idea of what they want or even what they are looking for in a potential mate. Some people just want companionship, some people just want sex and some people like me desire a forever partnership with my future spouse. I don’t like it when people automatically assume just because I’ve been single for a while,  I am celibate and choose not to get involved with the wrong person like I’ve done pretty much most of my adult life that I am desperate or in a rush to find or get love. That’s just simply not true.

First of all God loves me unconditionally, that’s all I need! Actually I was talking to someone that held my interest for a good little while and I came to the conclusion I need a little longer to be single! So not every woman is just flat out desperate because she knows what she wants and refuses to settle for less than God’s best. I have no problem waiting for my husband. I don’t feel like my biological clock is ticking. I am all the way good!

I also don’t like it when women are accused of being overly emotional just because they know how to effectively express their feelings. That’s crazy! I always make sure I am up front and honest with whomever I choose to entertain that shows a romantic interest in me. Most of the time my honesty runs most men away which I think is awesome! Because if you can’t take my honesty, God did not send you! Okay!

So just be mindful while playing the field. Be mindful of your words. Do not say things that you do not mean. Be honest and upfront and please know yourself so you can know what you want. And if you are in the process of getting to know yourself. Then take the time to do just that be single and don’t waste other people’s time.

If you are only interested in sex say that. If you only want a non committed relationship say that. If you just don’t know what you want and you are winging it through life say that too! This way there is no confusion, no back and forth, no playing with people’s feelings and no bad karma for you. Because trust me Karma doesn’t care if you were a heathen yesterday and started living for God today it’s still coming for you. So just be truthful with people and you will have less trouble in this area of life.

You can be single and wait on your future spouse anyway you choose. But please don’t judge others because their way is not the most popular or even unheard of. Live your life the way you see fit. I personally live the Faith Life, living for God and living out the journey He created just for me!

In Layman’s terms Do you and I’m gonna do me! 😁

Live Intentionally! Be Bold! Your life does not need to be validated by others and you don’t have to prove yourself worthy of anybody’s love! God loves you! And God loves Me! So it really doesn’t matter who doesn’t! The people that are meant to be in your life will be! All others will be Exposed then Removed!

God does not play behind His children! He will protect your heart, so don’t worry about it getting broken! He will keep you and give you all you need to fulfill the journey He has made just for you! Don’t let other people’s opinions and thoughts hinder you from what God is trying to get to you!

Happy Thursday! ❤

XOXO

JB

Negativity Acceptance Vs. Positivity Rejection

 

Why is it acceptable and pretty much normal for people to be negative? Why is being positive out of the norm? When I begin to try and answer these questions I automatically think of what is out there. The negative examples on television, social media, and within people’s lives. Although, this is where I would say I see the most negativity there are also many people on the same platforms that promote positivity. I have noticed from my experiences negativity gets the most attention. I always wondered why that is? Is it because negativity is what people like? Is it because negativity is entertaining? Is it because most people are not satisfied with their own lives that they crave negativity? Many questions enter into my mind when I think of negativity vs. positivity.

It seems as if positivity is not normal, positivity is normally not the first response. Most people first weigh the options of a situation, analyze it, critique it and then maybe they may come up with a positive outcome. But why the process just to be positive or to have a positive response? Why isn’t it automatic? Is being supportive and happy for someone else only caused by first analyzing where you are in life? Can you naturally just be happy for someone else being in a positive space even if you are not? All these questions has my wheels turning, my mind thinking and my fingers typing. Let’s see if I can get to the bottom of this.

We all were younger at one time or another, going about life recklessly, making bad decisions and not thinking before doing. Naturally life experiences teaches us what not to do again so that we hopefully learn, mature and grow. But too often I find that people of  mostly mature ages Dibble and Dabble in negativity and what it brings. Negativity mostly stems from a negative mind frame, the way that we shape our thinking. The way you think  is the way you see the world. If you have a negative mind frame then negative things will manifest in your life. If you have a positive mind frame, positive things will begin to show up in your life.

One of the main things that I have experienced after rededicating my life to God is that first my thinking had to change. I used to think the whole world was against me, that everyone was out to get me and that bad things always seemed to happen to me. And because I thought  this way that is exactly what happened, I was unaware at the time my thinking brought forth negative manifestations/situations and caused me to respond in a negative way. After picking a couple of people’s brains I learned the reasons why negativity seems to be the first response is because of unawareness, immaturity and the lack of positive examples. Sometimes we as people have to see it to believe it. Me personally, I live my life by faith so I believe for things before I see them happen. But many people need to see it for themselves in order to believe positivity will bring forth positive manifestations.

Even though we live in a ever-changing world some people choose year after year to be the same. They never make any changes and continue to do the same things they have been doing expecting different results (which is the definition of insanity), then they question why their life is the way it is. In order to bring change in our own lives we have to change our thinking and our decision making.

Doing something just because everyone else is doing it is not always the best way to go. I personally love to do what everyone else isn’t doing. I like to stand out, be the unique person that God has made me to be and choose to live my best life. I also do not care what other people think of me, I know what God says about me and that is final. I do not require validation from others. I feel this way because of the boldness and confidence that God has instilled in me. I know who I am in Him and what my purpose in life is. I know because I trust God and have rededicated my life to him that I possess all the tools necessary to control my response to negativity. Shunning negativity does not start with judging others it starts with me! Choosing to make the right decisions, having the right thinking and choosing to not allow any obstacles in my path to knock me off the course God has created just for me.

The next time you are faced with negativity Choose to be positive! Choose to respond in a positive way or to not respond at all! Choose to be who God created you to be! Choose to live in your purpose! Choose to live your best life! Choose to be unapologetically you! Practicing Positivity will manifest a Positive life!

Happy Friday! ❤️

God’s Love Is Everything!

The way God Loves is very different from how we as humans love. God’s Love doesn’t come with stipulations or conditions. God’s Love goes on forever and never gives up. God’s Love waits patiently on us to come to Him and live the life He has designed just for us. God’s Love doesn’t judge our personalities and characteristics. God’s Love is the best kind of Love that anyone can receive. God’s Love is the only Love of it’s kind, the original and true meaning of what Love truly is.

When you think of all the goals you have in life I guarantee for most people finding true Love is on that list. Love is what we feel can make us complete, fill the void in our lives and bring our lives full circle. If you have everything but you don’t have Love then you ultimately have nothing. Have you ever wondered why Love is considered having everything? Why is it that our lives always feels as if something is missing if we don’t have Love? Often times we go about searching for Love in all the wrong ways. We hope that one day we will meet the one person in this world who understands us, completes our sentences and can see us for who we are. We look for this Love from another human, a man or a woman. That one person who will give us the Love we see in romantic movies, the person who will make us feel like a Disney Princess or Prince. This Love does exist but not in the way we imagine. For any human to be able to give this kind of Love they must first experience the Love of God!

God has personally shown me what Love truly is, I mean come on He created it. When I once upon a time struggled with feeling unloved by people God showed me that what others had shown me was not true Love. Only God’s Love can do all the things we think Love is. God may not like something I do but He never takes His love away! He is always there for me when I need Him, He answers my prayers and my questions, He provides what I need and want! God’s Love is truly everything! When God says “All we need is in Him” it is so true! Even if I am not feeling myself I can go to God and He reminds of who I am! My identity comes from Him! I know that if I had not experienced God’s Love I would not be able to truly Love someone else. Because Of the Love God has shown me, every void has been filled, every area of my life has lined up with what He has promised. God’s Love Is Everything!

Not only did God show me what Love is but He also fine tuned me so that my heart is pure and open. This is the only way to receive God’s Love and everything that comes with it. This is also the only way to be able to give true Love to others! You cannot say you truly Love someone else until you have experienced Love yourself! If you haven’t already received God’s Love just go to Him sincerely and He will give it to you! You do not have to be perfect, or earn it, He already Loves you, you just have to receive it!

Happy Friday! 🙂

XOXO,

JB

Moving Forward With God!

While on the journey to Divine Life you will always experience increase. God increases our lives to different levels, each level being higher than the previous one. Once a new level is reached some things and people may stay on their current level while you are Moving Forward! Recognize that some people, things, characteristics and situations are meant to be in your life for only a season. Everything is not meant to be in your life forever, just like you may be rising to a new level some things and people are not meant to come with you.

With increase comes growth and wisdom. When God increases you He brings you to a new place in which you haven’t been before, a place where you are a better version of yourself. In this new place you do things differently, think differently and expect different results. All of our old habits, old friends and traditions may change. When this happens don’t spend too much time thinking about why these things have changed just embrace it and be grateful.

Everything God does is for a reason. Don’t take for granted how God is protecting you and leading you to what He has for you. Of course bad things do not come from God but if a situation occurs that you consider bad God will always make it work out in your favor. When I think about the relationships I’ve had with people and how they have changed I’m thankful! Everyone is not on God’s plan or seeking God’s best for their lives. Those that are on their own plans leading and guiding themselves will be separated from those of us who have accepted God’s plan for our lives. Being an example in the earth of all the awesome things God can do will attract some and deter others. Just know those whom are meant to be in your life at appointed times will be.

After you’ve accepted that the concept of increase sometimes means leaving others behind don’t feel bad about the journey God has set you on. Great things and people will come into your life and you can take comfort in knowing those things and people were sent by God. It will be very easy to recognize that which doesn’t belong. I always remind myself of that because we can easily develop a long term attachment for those who are only seasonal. As we continue to put God first and at the center of every area in our lives He will always reveal to us new things, new people, new places and new levels. No one can Move Forward always looking back over their shoulder. Don’t allow your past to affect your future!


Happy Monday! ❤️

XOXO

JB

Patience, Gratefulness & Worship!

On this journey God has placed me on I have acquired certain attitudes about life and God’s Plan. Attitudes that I believe are skills needed to get me through each level of increase God brings. Each level of increase consists of a process before the manifestation, the process although it can be difficult builds me up, makes my spirit stronger and teaches me key components that I will need once I reach the next level of increase. It is tough to see the value in the process while I’m in it but towards the end I see how God has added value to my life and my journey.

One of the most valuable skills I have learned is Patience. God has taught me the art of waiting. Timing is so intricate within God’s plan, everything is done at a specific time or within a season. I may not always understand it but the results of my Patience has been amazing thus far. I always remind myself in the times I become impatient that God knows what He is doing and I have allowed Him to have full control over my life. I have came this far because of God and He knows what is best for me. With Patience comes trust, trusting God through every situation and to solve every problem is important. There is nothing too hard for God and nothing He can’t do!

After learning Patience I’ve learned to have a attitude of Gratitude! Continuing to be Grateful for all I have now instead of worrying about what I don’t have and what I want to have in the future. Now don’t get me wrong I am a forward thinking person, I take time to meditate on my future and my goals. But I also make sure I am consistently being Grateful to God for increasing me from where I used to be. If you can show God you are Grateful with what He has blessed you with now, He knows He can trust you and bless you with more! I don’t take anything for granted from waking up everyday with Divine health and in my right mind to crossing paths with people who are meant to be in my life. I like to call it Divine Intervention, everything is for a reason.

Lastly I have recently gotten a deeper revelation of what it means to Worship! Worshiping God doesn’t have to mean what someone else says it means, but what it means to me which is having a special honor and reverence for God. In other words a special respect that you have for God that you don’t have for anyone else. Pastor Bridget Hilliard of New Light Christian Center explained it this way at the Women’s Conference this past week. This got me to thinking about my personal relationship with God and what it means. How I have come to know and love God so much that I trust Him in every area of my life! So I decided why Worship God only when you are going through something or on Sundays when you attend church. I’ve decided to show God how much He means to me daily, so I now include Worship in my routine. God means so much to me and I love to show Him the honor and place He holds in my life! Also Worship changes things! Since I’ve added Worship in my daily routine God always gives my spirit exactly what it needs to keep going, to stay strong and to accomplish my goals that day! I love it! The wonderful thing about God is He has so much to give us even if we don’t ask for anything and when we do ask for something He gives us more! Come On, who wouldn’t want to Worship a God like that!?! He is The Only God Like That!

Life has so many things going on, things to do, places to go, people to see, difficulties that arise but God is constant, always there, never changing, always loving, unending and everything we will ever need forever! I am more than ecstatic to know​ Him, love Him and have Him at the center of my life and everything I do! If He has taught me this much as of now, just imagine how much more He will teach me and show me! With God as the head of my life, I can master my life’s journey, be the woman He created me to be and fulfill my God given purpose on this Earth! And You Can Too!

 

Happy Tuesday! 🙂 ❤️

XOXO

JB

Making Executive Decisions For Your Life!

On your journey to receiving all God has for you there are key decisions that have to be made. These key decisions will shape not only how you get to where God wants you to be but also help you to gain wisdom and clarity on your life’s purpose.

“Everything that glitters is not gold,” as the old folks would say. Every opportunity that presents itself may look and sound good but may not be the right opportunity for you. If it doesn’t fall in line with what God has directed you to do or if it strays too far off the path that you are on, it’s probably not the right opportunity. These kind of opportunities may come when you are focused on getting what God says you can have. Saying No in life is just as important as saying Yes! Some things that come to us are not for us. The devil can present what may seem like a great opportunity to distract you from where God is bringing you to. We have to recognize and realize what those opportunities look like so we can carefully weed out what is not for us!

This has recently happened to me, I am currently going through a process that is sending me to the next level in my life. Over the past 5 months or so I have experienced different trails and lessons that has gotten me to the place I am today. If it was not for these specific things happening, some were super awesome, some were not so great, I would not have learned the lessons needed to rise to the next level of my journey. Within this process I have opened my heart to new things, had some great experiences and also rid myself of some things and people. I’ve also had to say No to some opportunities that sounded great! I’ve said Yes to the things God has planted within my heart although some may think I should be doing otherwise. I have chosen to make some sacrifices and be patient so I can get to where God is leading me! It’s definitely not the easiest thing to do but I know it will be worth it!

Anything God has told me to do I am doing it, even if it seems to be difficult or if I can’t see the end result. I know God has never led me wrong and as long as I keep moving forward with my spirit man first I will not be disappointed! And of course because God can’t fail and I’m in partnership with Him neither can I! Continue to make Executive Decisions For Your Life! Don’t be afraid to say No to something that is not particularly in line with your journey! Say Yes to those things that are not only worth your time, skills, gifts and talents but are desires of your heart! God has placed those desires there so you can act on them! Say No to people, things and activities that are not in line with what God has told you to do, things that are wasting your time! Do and participate with people and activities that support your journey to living the life God has designed just for you! Don’t be afraid to step up and make the right decisions for your life! God has given you the wisdom and clarity to do so! God will always be on our sides leading and guiding us, but He gives us everything we need to make the right decisions! Trust in the God that lives inside of you to live your best life! Our choices and Executive Decisions shape our lives! God has entrusted you with this journey so follow your heart, the center of you to get all God has for you!

 

Happy Hump Day! 🙂

XOXO ❤️

JB

Faith, Love & Celibacy!!

We all want that special person, the person God has made just for us! We also want to be prosperous and live our best lives being successful in every area! We want it all! In order to have all we desire in life we must live in a way that leads us to all God has for us.

Everyone’s life is different, we walk different paths to get to where we are supposed to be in our journeys. We learn lessons, we gain wisdom, we figure out what we truly want out of life, well most of us. There may be some people in the midst of figuring things out, where they are supposed to be, what they want to do and in what direction their life is headed. God is there is to lead and guide us along the way even when we choose a path that may not be good for us. When we look to Him He helps us to make good choices leading us to the life He designed just for us! When looking to God for guidance we must first have Faith!

Faith comes from God, this is not something we have to come up with ourselves. God gives us Faith to help us believe what we cannot see. My faith started off very small, I had plans, things I wanted to do and most of the time I believed I could. Along the way a lot of my plans were not working out the way I planned so I made new plans. All along I was doing what I wanted and including God in some parts but not fully. Because of my plans I made a lot of mistakes, hooked up with some people who I probably shouldn’t have been hanging out with and learned some lessons the hard way. But even after all of that I had Faith that life had to be better, I knew there was more to life than what I had experienced. At this point I looked to God to include Him fully in every area of my life and not just some parts! I figured out after being hurt many times by so called friends, boyfriends and even family that I wanted to live the life God talked about in the Bible. The life He said He has already given us!

Seeming that I was at a turning point, holding on to past hurts and experiences God first taught me how to forgive. I am not just talking about saying “Sorry” or accepting someone’s apoli-lie! I mean really forgiving someone just like God forgives us! He wipes the slate clean, let’s go of the wrong we have done once we come to Him asking for forgiveness. This was a hard one for me, I am a strong believer in Karma and although I am not revengeful I couldn’t wait for those whom I felt had wronged me to “Get Theirs!” God showed me that forgiveness was not for the people who hurt me or treated me unfairly, it was for me! I was the one holding on to hurt and bad experiences. In order to live out the better life I had in mind, the life God designed just for me I had to forgive and let go!

Although I had learned to forgive, I closed myself off to people and my heart was hardened. God knew in order to live life His Way, Not My Way, His Way, I needed an open heart! This is when God showed me what true Love is! The God kind of love is unlike any other Love I have ever thought I experienced in my life! It is everything you would look to a significant other for, a family member for or a friend for but end up disappointed time and time again. God’s love is enormous and unending! I now look at God’s love as a very special gift! God showed me before I experienced His love I never really knew what Love was and is! I am still overwhelmed when I think of how much God Loves me! He has proven His Love for me over and over again! Because of the Love God has shown me my heart changed and I now am able to receive things from Him that someone with a hardened heart would not be able to!  Love is an action and God taught me that!

Being guided by God through this transition I remember what it is was like to live my way and the difference of the life God was showing me He had for me! I remembered, starting in middle school when I was criticized for my looks and how that had somehow carried into my adulthood. I would be easily offended if someone said something about my size, my dark skin or worst of all the label “The Big Girl Who Can Dance” UGGGGHH!! I may not have said anything at the moment because at this point I was trying to change my flesh along with how God changed my heart but those things upset me.  God showed me my true self! Who I really am! Beautiful, Confident, Bold, Smart & Talented! If anyone said something different than what God said then I knew they were liars! Now I get compliments on the very things I was criticized for! I have even had encounters with jealousy because others wanted to look the same as I do! Who Knew!?! With this change in my heart, my characteristics and my life as a whole came self Love! I got to know the woman God created me to be and boy do I love her!!!

Once I got to know and really Love myself I begin to realize my worth and how much I had short changed myself over the years. Dating & Relationships, I was always in one or doing the other but I would always end up alone. So after I had been hurt for the last time by someone who claimed they loved me, I decided to be Celibate! Woooooh Chill, Chill, that’s not a curse word, lol, maybe foreign but if you don’t know what that is Google it. I decided me giving my body to someone that I would not wind up with in the end was pointless. I was tired of getting hurt and being lied to just so someone else could get what they wanted! What about me? I want things too! I want a husband, my life partner, the man God made just for me! And in order to get to Him I have to be ready in all areas of my life! I have to be myself, knowing who I am and what Love really is! I cannot be caught up with another man  who is not my husband just to pass time and then as a result miss my husband! It has now been 5 years, yup that’s right 5 years and I must say I am on the right track! I do not regret for one second getting in partnership with God. He has and continues to increase my life in ways that I never imagined! He has and continues to protect my heart, so I do not fear being hurt! He has put me right where I am supposed to be at this appointed time! The people who are in my life are there for a reason!

No matter what the normal thing to do is, remember there is always something better! If it is within God’s plan then it is possible! Everything I have and am working for are coming to past! My hard times are minuscule and my success is great! God knows what He is doing! I trust Him to continue to help me along this wonderful journey! Stay Tuned! This is only the beginning!

Happy Thursday! 🙂

XOXO

JB

 

 

 

Self Love: Know Your Worth!

Knowing exactly who you are and who God created you to be is key to your identity. Through my life’s journey I have found there are many people who do not know who they are. Because they do not know themselves they have a hard time living out their life’s purpose, knowing what to do, in what direction to go, what people to be around and most of all what they want out of life. It is important to learn these things about yourself in order to live your best life.

When we were created God had a finished plan already designed for us. Fresh out of the womb into this world we all have had a specific purpose. As children your gifts, talents and personality began to develop, this is the start of learning who you are. As we enter into adulthood our experiences and choices shape us and sometime along the way we can lose sight of who we are and why we are here. I can say from my personal experience that after college I had to revise my life’s plan. If it was up to me I was going to teach Dance and open my own Performing Arts School. I loved Dance and Teaching and still do so much that I wanted to make a living out of it. But along the way I ended up not making as much money as I planned. Not being the type to have to depend on others I had to get a new skill, one that would allow me to independently sustain myself, which also meant I needed to be making more money. I received an opportunity to began working in healthcare and now 4 years later I am a Certified Medical Coder! Who knew!?! As different as teaching Dance and Healthcare is God already placed everything I needed to succeed within me. As you can tell my plan and God’s plan were totally different! His plan for my life has been established and I just had to get with the program!

Once I accepted God’s plan for my life He taught me who I am! My identity as well as yours comes from Him! I took the time to learn more about myself and see myself through God’s eyes. I no longer criticize the things I may not like about myself, I accept my flaws and work on those things or characteristics I would like to be better. I do not put myself down physically or emotionally and if someone says something about me that is different than who God says I am I do not believe them! I wake up everyday and choose to embrace every moment and I know each moment I am living out my life’s purpose, my truth! I choose to encourage myself even when I cannot find one human being to encourage me! I choose to live my best life, because let’s face it you only get one! I depend on God for provision and opportunities in every area of my life! I know why I am here, what my purpose is, where I am going and who I am! I know my worth!

I encourage you if you haven’t already to find out your worth! See yourself through the eyes of God and get to know who you are and what your purpose is! Then begin living it! It is that simple! Love yourself! No one is going to love you like you love yourself! No one is going to love you like God loves you! Love conquers All!

Happy Monday! 🙂

XOXO

JB