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God’s Unique Plan: Releasing The Concerns Of Others!

Some people can take an interest in the lives of others. Forming and sharing their thoughts, feelings and opinions about someone else’s life and decisions. There are many forms of entertainment out there but  nothing like people watching. 👀 It is important for us not to allow what people think or say to affect or hinder our unique journey.

Everybody is different. There are no 2 people on Earth that is the same. I don’t consider myself to be normal. I’ve always done things differently than others. I have never went with a fad or what was most popular. When I chose to do things differently I did it intentionally. I will just share my experience with dealing with opinions and thoughts of others about my journey of “Waiting For My Husband.”

I am single, waiting on my husband and celibate. I have been for a nice while now. I’ve taken this time to get closer to God and to get to know myself better. Knowing God is truly knowing yourself. I’ve been asked “how can I ask God for a husband when I don’t date?” Well, because I trust God to bring the man He has created just for me to be my husband into my life so the search is not up to me to do. And honestly I am over dating. I’ve dated before, been in long term relationships before, I’ve even had sexual rendezvous before and none of those things ever brought me closer to finding my husband. I’ve realized it’s because I am not to be out there looking and searching. God knows all and He knows my future husband. I trust that when the time is right we will come together just as God has planned.

With that being said, I’ve met, talked to and entertained some men in my single state. It’s a lot of men that are just like a lot of women. They are playing the field and do not have the slightest idea of what they want or even what they are looking for in a potential mate. Some people just want companionship, some people just want sex and some people like me desire a forever partnership with my future spouse. I don’t like it when people automatically assume just because I’ve been single for a while,  I am celibate and choose not to get involved with the wrong person like I’ve done pretty much most of my adult life that I am desperate or in a rush to find or get love. That’s just simply not true.

First of all God loves me unconditionally, that’s all I need! Actually I was talking to someone that held my interest for a good little while and I came to the conclusion I need a little longer to be single! So not every woman is just flat out desperate because she knows what she wants and refuses to settle for less than God’s best. I have no problem waiting for my husband. I don’t feel like my biological clock is ticking. I am all the way good!

I also don’t like it when women are accused of being overly emotional just because they know how to effectively express their feelings. That’s crazy! I always make sure I am up front and honest with whomever I choose to entertain that shows a romantic interest in me. Most of the time my honesty runs most men away which I think is awesome! Because if you can’t take my honesty, God did not send you! Okay!

So just be mindful while playing the field. Be mindful of your words. Do not say things that you do not mean. Be honest and upfront and please know yourself so you can know what you want. And if you are in the process of getting to know yourself. Then take the time to do just that be single and don’t waste other people’s time.

If you are only interested in sex say that. If you only want a non committed relationship say that. If you just don’t know what you want and you are winging it through life say that too! This way there is no confusion, no back and forth, no playing with people’s feelings and no bad karma for you. Because trust me Karma doesn’t care if you were a heathen yesterday and started living for God today it’s still coming for you. So just be truthful with people and you will have less trouble in this area of life.

You can be single and wait on your future spouse anyway you choose. But please don’t judge others because their way is not the most popular or even unheard of. Live your life the way you see fit. I personally live the Faith Life, living for God and living out the journey He created just for me!

In Layman’s terms Do you and I’m gonna do me! 😁

Live Intentionally! Be Bold! Your life does not need to be validated by others and you don’t have to prove yourself worthy of anybody’s love! God loves you! And God loves Me! So it really doesn’t matter who doesn’t! The people that are meant to be in your life will be! All others will be Exposed then Removed!

God does not play behind His children! He will protect your heart, so don’t worry about it getting broken! He will keep you and give you all you need to fulfill the journey He has made just for you! Don’t let other people’s opinions and thoughts hinder you from what God is trying to get to you!

Happy Thursday! ❤

XOXO

JB

Go With The Flow, Depending On God For Everything!!!

It’s human nature to want to do things ourselves, make our own choices, never ask for help but to first try and make things happen all on our own. Even as a child begins to explore on their own they often tell their parents “I got it” or “I’m going to do it myself.” It’s natural to feel if you don’t do it yourself it won’t be done in the right way, or the way in which you want it to be done. But God is here for us, alongside us, teaching us, leading and guiding us to an adventure that He has planned specifically for our lives.

I must say it is never easy asking for help or thinking that I cannot do things on my own. It took an event in my life for me to realize that life isn’t easy and I needed help in order to live my best life. As I came to this point I turned to God admitting that I was lost and needed help. I was also willing to stop doing things my own way and open to learning how to live my life the way God has planned it. He immediately begin to reveal His plan for my life, slowly but surely. This plan required me to always depend on God, to trust Him to lead me to making the right choices, allowing the Divine relationships into my life and to steer clear of relationships/friendships that were not meant for me. It required work on my part but this time when I accepted God’s way and abandoned my own I would never be alone.

Little did I know once I made the decision to accept God’s plan a continuous need for God would grow. I went from calling on God in only hard times to needing Him everyday, in every decision and in every area of my life. The more I depended on God the more He taught me. I learned to trust Him always, come to Him first not as a last resort and keep Him at the head of my life. God has increased me in amazing ways that cannot be explained. He has held a firm grip on me not letting me fall when life gets hard and making lemonade out of very sour lemons. I have learned how to be happy 99 percent of the time and when weapons form that 1 percent of the time to have faith they won’t prosper. I don’t sweat the small stuff and I am open to instant changes because life is always changing. I continue to accept God’s plan for my life over and over again! I say that because we ask God for things all the time but when He gives them to us in a way that we didn’t think could have happened sometimes we can overlook the blessing just because it didn’t happen the way we may have thought it would.

When we accept God’s plan and depend on him, solely on Him for all things we allow Him to bless us in the best way possible or impossible. The way God does things in and throughout our lives we don’t have the capacity to think that up! We can’t even imagine it! God is so big and so loving! He has our best interest, He protects us, He looks out for us, He is loyal to us and most of all He loves us more than any human can!

If you are having a hard time figuring this thing called Life out just hook up with God. He is the best friend and family you could ever have! He knows all and He is all the help you need! His word says “Everything We Need Is In Him.” With God you can’t lose, you may get down but He won’t let you fall and your life will never be boring! But filled up with the great adventure God has created just for you!

Try Him Y’all! He Will Teach You How To Go With The Flow Of Life! Increasing You Every Step Of The Way!

Happy Sunday! ❤️

XOXO,

JB

Seeing Myself The Way God Sees Me!

On my spiritual journey just like others I have experienced challenging times. This Faith Life  is not always easy but it’s always worth it. I’m going to share a personal journal entry from my time with God, I hope to encourage my readers as I open My Heart, thoughts and prayers.

Often times we can get so caught up in life that we begin to see ourselves through our own eyes. Many choices we have made that has increased our lives we needed God’s help. God is always there to lead and guide us and do things within and through us. When life becomes overwhelming we can lose sight of the Big Picture and begin to doubt ourselves, our gifts and talents because we are looking at what we can do through our own strength. Through the difficult time I recently experienced I had to remind myself of the way that God sees me, His purpose for my life and all that He has called me to do. God reminded me that it is not through my own strength that I have gotten this far on my journey but everything is through Him. He is my Source, the Truth, the Life and the only way I will fulfill my purpose is to Trust Him.

Journal Entry: February 14th 2018

As I search my heart today and everyday, I constantly make a choice to trust in God. Everything is not perfect but it is moving forward. I am choosing to look forward and enjoy each day as best as I can and to let past things pass away. I am also choosing to have an open heart, and no matter what I am choosing to Forgive, Let Go and Walk in Love.

Prayer: I thank you Lord for giving me the strength to move forward on this spiritual, emotional and mental Journey you have set me upon. In every trial there is a lesson, with every difficulty I am faced with choices and I always choose the choice that line up with your word. At times I get annoyed, emotionally disturbed and frustrated with situations and people. But I always come back to my foundation in you! I remember the Bigger Picture and the bright future you have planned for me! I know you know best and provide me with everything I need and want. I thank you for helping me, understanding me and giving me peace so that you can continue your work in me until the day it is finished. This journey so far has been beautiful, exciting and sometimes difficult. But I know it is definitely worth it and I’m glad you chose me!  As long as you keep choosing me and pursuing me (which I know He always will) I will always keep choosing you! Thank you for filling in the gaps because of you I am whole! Amen!

Scripture:” Don’t worry about anything; instead pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank Him for all He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4: 6-7

I hope you will be encouraged today! Remember it is not by your own strength that you will live out your purpose is it by God’s power within you!

Happy Monday! ❤

XOXO,

JB

Negativity Acceptance Vs. Positivity Rejection

 

Why is it acceptable and pretty much normal for people to be negative? Why is being positive out of the norm? When I begin to try and answer these questions I automatically think of what is out there. The negative examples on television, social media, and within people’s lives. Although, this is where I would say I see the most negativity there are also many people on the same platforms that promote positivity. I have noticed from my experiences negativity gets the most attention. I always wondered why that is? Is it because negativity is what people like? Is it because negativity is entertaining? Is it because most people are not satisfied with their own lives that they crave negativity? Many questions enter into my mind when I think of negativity vs. positivity.

It seems as if positivity is not normal, positivity is normally not the first response. Most people first weigh the options of a situation, analyze it, critique it and then maybe they may come up with a positive outcome. But why the process just to be positive or to have a positive response? Why isn’t it automatic? Is being supportive and happy for someone else only caused by first analyzing where you are in life? Can you naturally just be happy for someone else being in a positive space even if you are not? All these questions has my wheels turning, my mind thinking and my fingers typing. Let’s see if I can get to the bottom of this.

We all were younger at one time or another, going about life recklessly, making bad decisions and not thinking before doing. Naturally life experiences teaches us what not to do again so that we hopefully learn, mature and grow. But too often I find that people of  mostly mature ages Dibble and Dabble in negativity and what it brings. Negativity mostly stems from a negative mind frame, the way that we shape our thinking. The way you think  is the way you see the world. If you have a negative mind frame then negative things will manifest in your life. If you have a positive mind frame, positive things will begin to show up in your life.

One of the main things that I have experienced after rededicating my life to God is that first my thinking had to change. I used to think the whole world was against me, that everyone was out to get me and that bad things always seemed to happen to me. And because I thought  this way that is exactly what happened, I was unaware at the time my thinking brought forth negative manifestations/situations and caused me to respond in a negative way. After picking a couple of people’s brains I learned the reasons why negativity seems to be the first response is because of unawareness, immaturity and the lack of positive examples. Sometimes we as people have to see it to believe it. Me personally, I live my life by faith so I believe for things before I see them happen. But many people need to see it for themselves in order to believe positivity will bring forth positive manifestations.

Even though we live in a ever-changing world some people choose year after year to be the same. They never make any changes and continue to do the same things they have been doing expecting different results (which is the definition of insanity), then they question why their life is the way it is. In order to bring change in our own lives we have to change our thinking and our decision making.

Doing something just because everyone else is doing it is not always the best way to go. I personally love to do what everyone else isn’t doing. I like to stand out, be the unique person that God has made me to be and choose to live my best life. I also do not care what other people think of me, I know what God says about me and that is final. I do not require validation from others. I feel this way because of the boldness and confidence that God has instilled in me. I know who I am in Him and what my purpose in life is. I know because I trust God and have rededicated my life to him that I possess all the tools necessary to control my response to negativity. Shunning negativity does not start with judging others it starts with me! Choosing to make the right decisions, having the right thinking and choosing to not allow any obstacles in my path to knock me off the course God has created just for me.

The next time you are faced with negativity Choose to be positive! Choose to respond in a positive way or to not respond at all! Choose to be who God created you to be! Choose to live in your purpose! Choose to live your best life! Choose to be unapologetically you! Practicing Positivity will manifest a Positive life!

Happy Friday! ❤️

Moving Forward With God!

While on the journey to Divine Life you will always experience increase. God increases our lives to different levels, each level being higher than the previous one. Once a new level is reached some things and people may stay on their current level while you are Moving Forward! Recognize that some people, things, characteristics and situations are meant to be in your life for only a season. Everything is not meant to be in your life forever, just like you may be rising to a new level some things and people are not meant to come with you.

With increase comes growth and wisdom. When God increases you He brings you to a new place in which you haven’t been before, a place where you are a better version of yourself. In this new place you do things differently, think differently and expect different results. All of our old habits, old friends and traditions may change. When this happens don’t spend too much time thinking about why these things have changed just embrace it and be grateful.

Everything God does is for a reason. Don’t take for granted how God is protecting you and leading you to what He has for you. Of course bad things do not come from God but if a situation occurs that you consider bad God will always make it work out in your favor. When I think about the relationships I’ve had with people and how they have changed I’m thankful! Everyone is not on God’s plan or seeking God’s best for their lives. Those that are on their own plans leading and guiding themselves will be separated from those of us who have accepted God’s plan for our lives. Being an example in the earth of all the awesome things God can do will attract some and deter others. Just know those whom are meant to be in your life at appointed times will be.

After you’ve accepted that the concept of increase sometimes means leaving others behind don’t feel bad about the journey God has set you on. Great things and people will come into your life and you can take comfort in knowing those things and people were sent by God. It will be very easy to recognize that which doesn’t belong. I always remind myself of that because we can easily develop a long term attachment for those who are only seasonal. As we continue to put God first and at the center of every area in our lives He will always reveal to us new things, new people, new places and new levels. No one can Move Forward always looking back over their shoulder. Don’t allow your past to affect your future!


Happy Monday! ❤️

XOXO

JB

Don’t Panic, Step Back, Gain Clarity & Trust God!!!

In life it is inevitable that difficult and inconvenient situations will arise. Often times we may react instead of thinking things through, seeing the situation as a mountain instead of a molehill. When difficult times happen as they will don’t look so closely at the problem, for every problem God has a solution.

On this journey I have learned that reacting is not always the best choice, I can get angry, yell scream and throw an adult tantrum but the problem will still be there. When you have a problem you want it to go away as quickly as possible. You don’t want to prolong it or cause more problems and the only way to do that is first Don’t Panic! When we Panic our minds are clouded, when we are upset all we are thinking of is the problem that needs solving. Your mind is blocked off to coming up with solutions for the problem. This might sound simple but stay calm and give yourself time to process what you have been presented with.

Once you are cool, your difficult glasses are off and you now see the issue for exactly what it is. You won’t exaggerate or see the issue through a magnifying glass, you see and understand what is happening. Taking a Step Back in all situations is a good thing! Getting too excited about something great or that seems great at the moment may look different later. It works the same when difficulties arise. Stepping Back allows your mind to be clear after you realize the actual size of the issue.

After snapping back into reality and understanding the issue at hand now you can gain Clarity that will help you come up with solutions! Your mind is clear, your thinking is straight and now God can channel solutions for your problem through you! Things you couldn’t have thought of when you were upset will come to you. Lastly Trust God! You can trust that God has not thought of a problem that there is not a solution for! He knows all and provides us with all we need when we need it! He has instilled wisdom in you to handle any and all of life’s situations! Trust God that He will get you through any obstacle that tries to get in your way! The scripture that I love to say when things get difficult for me is “No weapon formed against me will prosper!” Meaning things will try to stop you from getting what God has for you but will not be successful in any and all attempts! So even when things seem unbearable Trust God! He Has Us!

I recently experienced this within my own journey. My cell phone decided to break, not because I dropped it or didn’t take care of it. In great condition it just stopped working, would not even turn on. No big deal right….well the bigger issue was I had a phone interview the next day! Go figure my phone breaks and now I can’t have the phone interview for the job I’ve been praying for! What!?! I did everything I explained to you today. Not only did I have a great interview (went to use the phone in my apartments office), I have a new phone and I have another interview tomorrow! I trusted God and although something so small but so inconvenient came up I have the victory! What God has planned is already a finished product! Nothing and No one can stop what God has for you!!!

 

Happy Hump Day! 🙂

XOXO

JB

 

Making Executive Decisions For Your Life!

On your journey to receiving all God has for you there are key decisions that have to be made. These key decisions will shape not only how you get to where God wants you to be but also help you to gain wisdom and clarity on your life’s purpose.

“Everything that glitters is not gold,” as the old folks would say. Every opportunity that presents itself may look and sound good but may not be the right opportunity for you. If it doesn’t fall in line with what God has directed you to do or if it strays too far off the path that you are on, it’s probably not the right opportunity. These kind of opportunities may come when you are focused on getting what God says you can have. Saying No in life is just as important as saying Yes! Some things that come to us are not for us. The devil can present what may seem like a great opportunity to distract you from where God is bringing you to. We have to recognize and realize what those opportunities look like so we can carefully weed out what is not for us!

This has recently happened to me, I am currently going through a process that is sending me to the next level in my life. Over the past 5 months or so I have experienced different trails and lessons that has gotten me to the place I am today. If it was not for these specific things happening, some were super awesome, some were not so great, I would not have learned the lessons needed to rise to the next level of my journey. Within this process I have opened my heart to new things, had some great experiences and also rid myself of some things and people. I’ve also had to say No to some opportunities that sounded great! I’ve said Yes to the things God has planted within my heart although some may think I should be doing otherwise. I have chosen to make some sacrifices and be patient so I can get to where God is leading me! It’s definitely not the easiest thing to do but I know it will be worth it!

Anything God has told me to do I am doing it, even if it seems to be difficult or if I can’t see the end result. I know God has never led me wrong and as long as I keep moving forward with my spirit man first I will not be disappointed! And of course because God can’t fail and I’m in partnership with Him neither can I! Continue to make Executive Decisions For Your Life! Don’t be afraid to say No to something that is not particularly in line with your journey! Say Yes to those things that are not only worth your time, skills, gifts and talents but are desires of your heart! God has placed those desires there so you can act on them! Say No to people, things and activities that are not in line with what God has told you to do, things that are wasting your time! Do and participate with people and activities that support your journey to living the life God has designed just for you! Don’t be afraid to step up and make the right decisions for your life! God has given you the wisdom and clarity to do so! God will always be on our sides leading and guiding us, but He gives us everything we need to make the right decisions! Trust in the God that lives inside of you to live your best life! Our choices and Executive Decisions shape our lives! God has entrusted you with this journey so follow your heart, the center of you to get all God has for you!

 

Happy Hump Day! 🙂

XOXO ❤️

JB

Achieving Your Dreams Is Worth The Sacrifice!!

Have you ever wondered why living your dream doesn’t come easy? Why does it take so long? Why can’t I live my dreams now? Why do I have to work so hard and give so much before my dream comes true? These are valid questions that every Dream Chaser asks, it is something within you that doesn’t want to give up until you are living your dream! This is because God made you for more, you were made to pursue the dreams and desires God has placed in your heart! You were made to fulfill your life’s purpose, be an example in the earth and make a difference in others lives by being true to your life’s journey! God has chosen you!

Sometimes it can take a while to realize what your purpose is or what you were made to do. It is important to discover what you are good at, what your gifts and talents are so that you can pursue them and ultimately live your dreams. Dream Chasing is not for the faint of heart, although the end result is always good the process to get there can be grueling! The purpose of the process is to teach you all the things you will need to know once you finally achieve your dream. The journey on the way there is the most valuable even though it may not seem that way now. With God by your side remember you can do what seems impossible and you can have all that God promised you!

The key to fueling your dreams is remembrance. Remember why you started to pursue your dreams in the first place, remember where you were when you started and remember how you got to the place you are in today! It may not be exactly where you want to be but the level of your life has progressed and increased! You are well on your way! Sacrificing is a part of the process! If you feel that you may have lost some things or people along the way God will return those things to you 100 fold! The people who are meant to be in your life will be and those that may have left this earth and are now in heaven are rooting for you just as much as  if they were here! So now it is up to you to continue going through the process, God will give you everything you need as long as you keep the faith! Continue to trust in God and His way and sooner than you think you will be living your dream!

I personally tell myself this and I will share it with you “Try Your Best To Enjoy The Journey To Your Dream”. Everything may not be exactly like you pictured it but I believe everything is for a purpose. If something is delayed, then it is for a reason, if one job offer didn’t work out that is for a reason. I am always trying my best to stay positive, optimistic and to know what God has for me is mine and no one person, thing or situation can change that! If you have some down time try to enjoy it, do something that you always wanted to do, try something new, read a new book, explore life! It is not just success we want, but what happens on the way there is what makes it all count!

Happy Hump Day! 🙂

XOXO,

JB