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God’s Unique Plan: Releasing The Concerns Of Others!

Some people can take an interest in the lives of others. Forming and sharing their thoughts, feelings and opinions about someone else’s life and decisions. There are many forms of entertainment out there but  nothing like people watching. 👀 It is important for us not to allow what people think or say to affect or hinder our unique journey.

Everybody is different. There are no 2 people on Earth that is the same. I don’t consider myself to be normal. I’ve always done things differently than others. I have never went with a fad or what was most popular. When I chose to do things differently I did it intentionally. I will just share my experience with dealing with opinions and thoughts of others about my journey of “Waiting For My Husband.”

I am single, waiting on my husband and celibate. I have been for a nice while now. I’ve taken this time to get closer to God and to get to know myself better. Knowing God is truly knowing yourself. I’ve been asked “how can I ask God for a husband when I don’t date?” Well, because I trust God to bring the man He has created just for me to be my husband into my life so the search is not up to me to do. And honestly I am over dating. I’ve dated before, been in long term relationships before, I’ve even had sexual rendezvous before and none of those things ever brought me closer to finding my husband. I’ve realized it’s because I am not to be out there looking and searching. God knows all and He knows my future husband. I trust that when the time is right we will come together just as God has planned.

With that being said, I’ve met, talked to and entertained some men in my single state. It’s a lot of men that are just like a lot of women. They are playing the field and do not have the slightest idea of what they want or even what they are looking for in a potential mate. Some people just want companionship, some people just want sex and some people like me desire a forever partnership with my future spouse. I don’t like it when people automatically assume just because I’ve been single for a while,  I am celibate and choose not to get involved with the wrong person like I’ve done pretty much most of my adult life that I am desperate or in a rush to find or get love. That’s just simply not true.

First of all God loves me unconditionally, that’s all I need! Actually I was talking to someone that held my interest for a good little while and I came to the conclusion I need a little longer to be single! So not every woman is just flat out desperate because she knows what she wants and refuses to settle for less than God’s best. I have no problem waiting for my husband. I don’t feel like my biological clock is ticking. I am all the way good!

I also don’t like it when women are accused of being overly emotional just because they know how to effectively express their feelings. That’s crazy! I always make sure I am up front and honest with whomever I choose to entertain that shows a romantic interest in me. Most of the time my honesty runs most men away which I think is awesome! Because if you can’t take my honesty, God did not send you! Okay!

So just be mindful while playing the field. Be mindful of your words. Do not say things that you do not mean. Be honest and upfront and please know yourself so you can know what you want. And if you are in the process of getting to know yourself. Then take the time to do just that be single and don’t waste other people’s time.

If you are only interested in sex say that. If you only want a non committed relationship say that. If you just don’t know what you want and you are winging it through life say that too! This way there is no confusion, no back and forth, no playing with people’s feelings and no bad karma for you. Because trust me Karma doesn’t care if you were a heathen yesterday and started living for God today it’s still coming for you. So just be truthful with people and you will have less trouble in this area of life.

You can be single and wait on your future spouse anyway you choose. But please don’t judge others because their way is not the most popular or even unheard of. Live your life the way you see fit. I personally live the Faith Life, living for God and living out the journey He created just for me!

In Layman’s terms Do you and I’m gonna do me! 😁

Live Intentionally! Be Bold! Your life does not need to be validated by others and you don’t have to prove yourself worthy of anybody’s love! God loves you! And God loves Me! So it really doesn’t matter who doesn’t! The people that are meant to be in your life will be! All others will be Exposed then Removed!

God does not play behind His children! He will protect your heart, so don’t worry about it getting broken! He will keep you and give you all you need to fulfill the journey He has made just for you! Don’t let other people’s opinions and thoughts hinder you from what God is trying to get to you!

Happy Thursday! ❤

XOXO

JB

Patience, Gratefulness & Worship!

On this journey God has placed me on I have acquired certain attitudes about life and God’s Plan. Attitudes that I believe are skills needed to get me through each level of increase God brings. Each level of increase consists of a process before the manifestation, the process although it can be difficult builds me up, makes my spirit stronger and teaches me key components that I will need once I reach the next level of increase. It is tough to see the value in the process while I’m in it but towards the end I see how God has added value to my life and my journey.

One of the most valuable skills I have learned is Patience. God has taught me the art of waiting. Timing is so intricate within God’s plan, everything is done at a specific time or within a season. I may not always understand it but the results of my Patience has been amazing thus far. I always remind myself in the times I become impatient that God knows what He is doing and I have allowed Him to have full control over my life. I have came this far because of God and He knows what is best for me. With Patience comes trust, trusting God through every situation and to solve every problem is important. There is nothing too hard for God and nothing He can’t do!

After learning Patience I’ve learned to have a attitude of Gratitude! Continuing to be Grateful for all I have now instead of worrying about what I don’t have and what I want to have in the future. Now don’t get me wrong I am a forward thinking person, I take time to meditate on my future and my goals. But I also make sure I am consistently being Grateful to God for increasing me from where I used to be. If you can show God you are Grateful with what He has blessed you with now, He knows He can trust you and bless you with more! I don’t take anything for granted from waking up everyday with Divine health and in my right mind to crossing paths with people who are meant to be in my life. I like to call it Divine Intervention, everything is for a reason.

Lastly I have recently gotten a deeper revelation of what it means to Worship! Worshiping God doesn’t have to mean what someone else says it means, but what it means to me which is having a special honor and reverence for God. In other words a special respect that you have for God that you don’t have for anyone else. Pastor Bridget Hilliard of New Light Christian Center explained it this way at the Women’s Conference this past week. This got me to thinking about my personal relationship with God and what it means. How I have come to know and love God so much that I trust Him in every area of my life! So I decided why Worship God only when you are going through something or on Sundays when you attend church. I’ve decided to show God how much He means to me daily, so I now include Worship in my routine. God means so much to me and I love to show Him the honor and place He holds in my life! Also Worship changes things! Since I’ve added Worship in my daily routine God always gives my spirit exactly what it needs to keep going, to stay strong and to accomplish my goals that day! I love it! The wonderful thing about God is He has so much to give us even if we don’t ask for anything and when we do ask for something He gives us more! Come On, who wouldn’t want to Worship a God like that!?! He is The Only God Like That!

Life has so many things going on, things to do, places to go, people to see, difficulties that arise but God is constant, always there, never changing, always loving, unending and everything we will ever need forever! I am more than ecstatic to know​ Him, love Him and have Him at the center of my life and everything I do! If He has taught me this much as of now, just imagine how much more He will teach me and show me! With God as the head of my life, I can master my life’s journey, be the woman He created me to be and fulfill my God given purpose on this Earth! And You Can Too!

 

Happy Tuesday! 🙂 ❤️

XOXO

JB

Faith, Love & Celibacy!!

We all want that special person, the person God has made just for us! We also want to be prosperous and live our best lives being successful in every area! We want it all! In order to have all we desire in life we must live in a way that leads us to all God has for us.

Everyone’s life is different, we walk different paths to get to where we are supposed to be in our journeys. We learn lessons, we gain wisdom, we figure out what we truly want out of life, well most of us. There may be some people in the midst of figuring things out, where they are supposed to be, what they want to do and in what direction their life is headed. God is there is to lead and guide us along the way even when we choose a path that may not be good for us. When we look to Him He helps us to make good choices leading us to the life He designed just for us! When looking to God for guidance we must first have Faith!

Faith comes from God, this is not something we have to come up with ourselves. God gives us Faith to help us believe what we cannot see. My faith started off very small, I had plans, things I wanted to do and most of the time I believed I could. Along the way a lot of my plans were not working out the way I planned so I made new plans. All along I was doing what I wanted and including God in some parts but not fully. Because of my plans I made a lot of mistakes, hooked up with some people who I probably shouldn’t have been hanging out with and learned some lessons the hard way. But even after all of that I had Faith that life had to be better, I knew there was more to life than what I had experienced. At this point I looked to God to include Him fully in every area of my life and not just some parts! I figured out after being hurt many times by so called friends, boyfriends and even family that I wanted to live the life God talked about in the Bible. The life He said He has already given us!

Seeming that I was at a turning point, holding on to past hurts and experiences God first taught me how to forgive. I am not just talking about saying “Sorry” or accepting someone’s apoli-lie! I mean really forgiving someone just like God forgives us! He wipes the slate clean, let’s go of the wrong we have done once we come to Him asking for forgiveness. This was a hard one for me, I am a strong believer in Karma and although I am not revengeful I couldn’t wait for those whom I felt had wronged me to “Get Theirs!” God showed me that forgiveness was not for the people who hurt me or treated me unfairly, it was for me! I was the one holding on to hurt and bad experiences. In order to live out the better life I had in mind, the life God designed just for me I had to forgive and let go!

Although I had learned to forgive, I closed myself off to people and my heart was hardened. God knew in order to live life His Way, Not My Way, His Way, I needed an open heart! This is when God showed me what true Love is! The God kind of love is unlike any other Love I have ever thought I experienced in my life! It is everything you would look to a significant other for, a family member for or a friend for but end up disappointed time and time again. God’s love is enormous and unending! I now look at God’s love as a very special gift! God showed me before I experienced His love I never really knew what Love was and is! I am still overwhelmed when I think of how much God Loves me! He has proven His Love for me over and over again! Because of the Love God has shown me my heart changed and I now am able to receive things from Him that someone with a hardened heart would not be able to!  Love is an action and God taught me that!

Being guided by God through this transition I remember what it is was like to live my way and the difference of the life God was showing me He had for me! I remembered, starting in middle school when I was criticized for my looks and how that had somehow carried into my adulthood. I would be easily offended if someone said something about my size, my dark skin or worst of all the label “The Big Girl Who Can Dance” UGGGGHH!! I may not have said anything at the moment because at this point I was trying to change my flesh along with how God changed my heart but those things upset me.  God showed me my true self! Who I really am! Beautiful, Confident, Bold, Smart & Talented! If anyone said something different than what God said then I knew they were liars! Now I get compliments on the very things I was criticized for! I have even had encounters with jealousy because others wanted to look the same as I do! Who Knew!?! With this change in my heart, my characteristics and my life as a whole came self Love! I got to know the woman God created me to be and boy do I love her!!!

Once I got to know and really Love myself I begin to realize my worth and how much I had short changed myself over the years. Dating & Relationships, I was always in one or doing the other but I would always end up alone. So after I had been hurt for the last time by someone who claimed they loved me, I decided to be Celibate! Woooooh Chill, Chill, that’s not a curse word, lol, maybe foreign but if you don’t know what that is Google it. I decided me giving my body to someone that I would not wind up with in the end was pointless. I was tired of getting hurt and being lied to just so someone else could get what they wanted! What about me? I want things too! I want a husband, my life partner, the man God made just for me! And in order to get to Him I have to be ready in all areas of my life! I have to be myself, knowing who I am and what Love really is! I cannot be caught up with another man  who is not my husband just to pass time and then as a result miss my husband! It has now been 5 years, yup that’s right 5 years and I must say I am on the right track! I do not regret for one second getting in partnership with God. He has and continues to increase my life in ways that I never imagined! He has and continues to protect my heart, so I do not fear being hurt! He has put me right where I am supposed to be at this appointed time! The people who are in my life are there for a reason!

No matter what the normal thing to do is, remember there is always something better! If it is within God’s plan then it is possible! Everything I have and am working for are coming to past! My hard times are minuscule and my success is great! God knows what He is doing! I trust Him to continue to help me along this wonderful journey! Stay Tuned! This is only the beginning!

Happy Thursday! 🙂

XOXO

JB

 

 

 

Achieving Your Dreams Is Worth The Sacrifice!!

Have you ever wondered why living your dream doesn’t come easy? Why does it take so long? Why can’t I live my dreams now? Why do I have to work so hard and give so much before my dream comes true? These are valid questions that every Dream Chaser asks, it is something within you that doesn’t want to give up until you are living your dream! This is because God made you for more, you were made to pursue the dreams and desires God has placed in your heart! You were made to fulfill your life’s purpose, be an example in the earth and make a difference in others lives by being true to your life’s journey! God has chosen you!

Sometimes it can take a while to realize what your purpose is or what you were made to do. It is important to discover what you are good at, what your gifts and talents are so that you can pursue them and ultimately live your dreams. Dream Chasing is not for the faint of heart, although the end result is always good the process to get there can be grueling! The purpose of the process is to teach you all the things you will need to know once you finally achieve your dream. The journey on the way there is the most valuable even though it may not seem that way now. With God by your side remember you can do what seems impossible and you can have all that God promised you!

The key to fueling your dreams is remembrance. Remember why you started to pursue your dreams in the first place, remember where you were when you started and remember how you got to the place you are in today! It may not be exactly where you want to be but the level of your life has progressed and increased! You are well on your way! Sacrificing is a part of the process! If you feel that you may have lost some things or people along the way God will return those things to you 100 fold! The people who are meant to be in your life will be and those that may have left this earth and are now in heaven are rooting for you just as much as  if they were here! So now it is up to you to continue going through the process, God will give you everything you need as long as you keep the faith! Continue to trust in God and His way and sooner than you think you will be living your dream!

I personally tell myself this and I will share it with you “Try Your Best To Enjoy The Journey To Your Dream”. Everything may not be exactly like you pictured it but I believe everything is for a purpose. If something is delayed, then it is for a reason, if one job offer didn’t work out that is for a reason. I am always trying my best to stay positive, optimistic and to know what God has for me is mine and no one person, thing or situation can change that! If you have some down time try to enjoy it, do something that you always wanted to do, try something new, read a new book, explore life! It is not just success we want, but what happens on the way there is what makes it all count!

Happy Hump Day! 🙂

XOXO,

JB

Well Worth The Wait!

Have you ever dreamed of the day when every area of your life is in order? When everything falls into perfect alignment at the perfect time and you are finally where you want to be in life? The day when you are living out your dreams and life purpose!?! Well, I can definitely attest to that. I have had many visions of myself being successful, living out my dreams and being in a place of total happiness and I am finally here!  It was not easy getting to this place, along the way I have had trials, difficult times and opposition but with God I have overcame those struggles and He continues to increase my life to levels I have only thought about.

As we know “Life” is not easy, it comes with many moments, special moments, frustrating moments as well as experiences that teach us how to make better choices and help us to gain wisdom. Anything worth doing in life requires faith and some sort of unknown risk. Taking this risk does not guarantee a great outcome but with God as a partner He promises if we are to trust Him He will give us the best life! God has and is doing all that He promised to do! My life is not perfect but it is pretty great and this is all due to my partnership with God. My success did not come overnight, there were some things I needed to learn, people I needed to let go of and places I needed to go. As God led me to and through these life experiences He has provided all I needed to get me where I am today!

I had to be patient, be bold, be confident in knowing who God says that I am! That is my identity, it comes from Him! Once you know who you are and your life’s purpose you are definitely on the right track! Do not let people’s opinions lead you somewhere you are not supposed to be. Allow God to be your guide, to give you the patience that is needed to reach your goals and live the life you have always dreamed of! Let’s not forget this requires some work on your part as well. If you do all you can do God will work that much harder on your behalf! If you haven’t already, take the steps to live your best life with God! He is waiting on you! If you are already in partnership with God I encourage you to continue on that path and to never give up because sometimes it can feel like it is over. At times it has looked like it was over for me but that is when God showed up, showed out and did His best work!

As a result my life is fulfilled! God has provided everything that I need and filled every void! I am lacking in nothing! I will continue on this path, the journey to Divine Life! I am living it and you can too! Although God has promised us so many things I made a personal promise to Him. No matter how successful I become I will always keep God at the forefront of my life! As I keep God first I will have an attitude of thankfulness! Now that’s a MAJOR KEY! Stay focused on your journey, do not allow worldly issues and negativity to affect your life or cause you to get off the path! God is with you and He lives in you! Because of this you can live the life He has designed just for you!

 

Happy Sunday! 🙂

XOXO

JB